Honesty is the best policy.
It’s even a little trendy right now.
(As if that even exists in our world of Instagram and Pinterest)
This woman thinks it does.
And I agree.
Unless we’ve been friends for a while I’m probably not going to tell you all the areas in which I feel weak.
That’s just how I’m built.
I don’t spill my guts to strangers.
Maybe I should?
But I don’t.
So you won’t know that I am absolutely terrified of talking to the new couple sitting in front of us at church. I want to. So bad. I think through it and haven’t found anything to say after, “Hi, I’m Rachel.” so I don’t. (Just to keep it real – this pours into my fear of Josh being a youth pastor or pastor. Pastor’s wives are good at talking to other people. Duh.)
You won’t know that I ate two bags of M&M’s for “lunch” today. And that wasn’t the first time it’s happened. (#whole30?)
You won’t know that I watch about two hours of TV on nights when Josh works and I don’t have any other plans. I realize I’m wasting my night. And that’s part of why I do it. I am downright lazy sometimes.
You won’t know that I still cry when my mom and dad leave after a weekend visit. And that the thought of moving anywhere far away from them scares me. And then the fact that it scares me scares me.
You won’t know that I want to be a momma so bad. But that I also feel like we’ll never be ready. That also scares me.
My life on this little blog or Instagram is in no way a lie.
But you certainly won’t see a picture of our five-million dirty dishes, the trash that smells but the dumpster is just too far, or the shower that hasn’t been cleaned in let’s just be safe and say three months.
Not one of those things have earned themselves a nice blog post or Instagram square.
I’m sure there’s more eloquent posts on the topic somewhere.
You should go look those up.
In the mean time, let’s be real.
Let’s cheer each other on instead of jealously critiquing each other – even if it’s “just” to ourselves or our husbands.
If someone loves keeping her home clean – cheer her on.
If someone loves keeping up on laundry so it lessens her stress don’t criticize her. Cheer her on.
Part of being human is the ability to empathize with others.
To say, “I’ve been there before!”
So let’s use it to encourage one another, not compare ourselves.
I love and admire people that show real life and honesty in what they do. Not showcasing it but just being honest and saying, “I don’t have it all together.”